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This comedy clip plays with the concept with a concrete example: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=owI7DOeO_yg

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Jan 20, 2022Liked by Sam Atis

This was a wonderfully-written article, thank you Sam. My partner and I had a long and fruitful discussion about our communication styles and preferences, and they mentioned a few new thoughts that I'm sharing now:

There's another reason to refuse the d-decouple, which is to avoid reinforcing dominant narratives in ones own self. We all have implicit bias, and it takes a lot of work to push against the dominant narratives that our implicit bias is reinforcing. So let's say society is constantly sending me the message that a certain group is worse in some way, but the truth is that they probably aren't. By accepting a d-decouple on that topic, it might be harmful to me by reinforcing the default beliefs I'm already having trouble pushing against.

One last thought. My partner suggested that we decouple when we engage with immersive fiction. From my own personal experience, I find that I'm happier and engage with the world in better ways when I'm reading books or playing games that depict a better world. This might not generalize to others, but I can't help but compare it against the above concept of decoupling.

Thanks again for a really lovely post. I'm now a happy subscriber.

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There isn't actually any good evidence that I'm aware of that "we all have implicit bias" that "reinforces dominant narratives", or that "implicit bias" is even a meaningful concept. The original research has been debunked and abandoned by two out of three of its co-authors. Yes, most people find it slightly easier to pair words about demographic groups with, rather than against, words for their corresponding stereotypes, when doing some kind of rapid-fire video-game-like word-association task. But this does not seem to be predictive of those people's discriminatory behavior in the real world or particularly revealing about them. So it may be OK to relax and decouple sometimes and not worry that entertaining wrongthink will damage your soul by reinforcing the o̵r̵i̵g̵i̵n̵a̵l̵ ̵s̵i̵n̵ ̵t̵h̵a̵t̵ ̵w̵a̵s̵ ̵p̵u̵t̵ ̵t̵h̵e̵r̵e̵ ̵b̵y̵ ̵t̵h̵e̵ ̵d̵e̵v̵i̵l̵ implicit biases that were put there by society.

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My experience in my own head is that I have plenty of ugly biases which shape the way I think... biases I don't want to have. I'd be surprised if either 1. I'm the only one, and/or 2. if the biases only appear in thought but don't affect my actions in literally any way.

In my experience, I regularly feel a stronger urge to cross the street when Black people are approaching versus white people, and it takes a conscious effort to act in line with my intentional values. I also find it difficult to believe this is the extent of it, though I'll admit it may be trickier to measure things like this than something simpler and well-bounded like the Implicit Association Test.

"o̵r̵i̵g̵i̵n̵a̵l̵ ̵s̵i̵n̵ ̵t̵h̵a̵t̵ ̵w̵a̵s̵ ̵p̵u̵t̵ ̵t̵h̵e̵r̵e̵ ̵b̵y̵ ̵t̵h̵e̵ ̵d̵e̵v̵i̵l̵" Just gonna explicitly note that this is a strawman I reject, though I trust you meant it as a joke 😊. And I'd suggest a little language tweak... implicit biases in most cases weren't "put there" by society, but may instead be an emergent property of society and systems of hierarchy/power (which breed incentives).

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I guess there are people significantly higher in propensity-to-D-decouple than you. I would (absent concern that the taxi driver was trying to generate blackmail material on me or similar) be inclined to accept the hypothetical for the discussion, rather than just rejecting it, and similarly with the Dawkins case. Though I do, I suspect, take more enjoyment in discussing strange hypothetical situations than most people.

There is, however, the consideration of public perception when the conversation is more for the benefit of onlookers than for the participants themselves. However, I think the best way to do that is not to just deny the premise of the hypothetical, which tends to make the person doing the denying look obtuse and uninterested in engaging with their interlocutor (at least to me), but rather to focus on the aspect that actually does lead to the bad results (such as the coercive part of coercive eugenics, rather than the eugenics part).

This also relates to the idea of whether there are should-be-taboo truths — things that are true, but the knowing of which by the general public would almost invariably lead to a bad outcome.

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Fascinating article. For me personally, I feel like D-Decoupling is rarely primarily an intellectual exercise—it's an emotional one. When I talk to my grandfather, whose policy ideas come from a very different cultural/political place (or maybe they just feel like a different tribe), what I need to do to engage fully is meditate, because the hard thing is not at all the intellectual understanding of his points, but the setting aside of emotions that they trigger in me.

Similarly to your argument, Sam, that D-Decoupling is a moral choice, I think it's both a) an important skill to be able to set aside/let go of the emotion to be able to think about troubling/weird hypotheticals, or even just arguments coming from a different tribe, but also b) there is definitely a tendency among the men in my family to D-Decouple quickly and therefore miss key emotional aspects of communication and relationships.

Another point, in a mini case study: I've been reading a lot of Bryan Caplan's work lately, which involves a lot of setting aside my preconceptions. When I read arguments he cites against fighting climate change, I start caring less about it, even when I am not intellectually convinced. So I am wary about exposure as a factor that can update our beliefs unconsciously even when we don't want to do that.

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I suspect your examples of public discourse hit the nail on the head.

Public discourse with third party onlookers is very different from private discourse. Especially if sound bite hungry media are listening in.

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You say "imagine that 'eugenics works' but of course, some people can't imagine / admit they imagine that" which is the issue :)

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